Today is February 1st and I am very happy to say that, for the first time ever, I have been able to stick to my new year’s resolutions through the entire month of January. In fact, I pat myself on the back just now. Quite an accomplishment for me, as I normally don’t make it past the first week.
So, what’s different this year? How come I’ve been able to stick with it for a whopping 31 days so far? I think it’s because I took a new approach. It’s so simple, something we all know already, that it’s almost silly to write about it. But I'll share it anyway because it's a good reminder.
It comes down to this: “99% is a b*tch, 100% is a breeze.”
I read that phrase over the holidays in Jack Canfield’s book “The Success Principles.” Jack writes:
“Successful people adhere to the “no exceptions rule” when it comes to their daily disciplines. Once you make a 100% commitment to something, there are no exceptions. It’s a done deal. Non-negotiable. Case closed! Over and out. If I make a 100% commitment to monogamy, that’s it. I never have to think about it again. There are no exceptions no matter what the circumstances. It ends the discussion, closes that door, permits no other possibility. I don’t have to wrestle with that decision every day. It’s already been made. The die has been cast. All the bridges are burned. It makes life easier and simpler and it keeps me on focus. It frees up tons of energy that would otherwise be spent internally debating the topic over and over and over, because all the energy I expend on internal conflict is unavailable to use for creating other achievement.”
Duh! What a concept. So simple. So true. And 100% effective.
There is a huge difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you tend to do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses. So, I call this year’s resolutions my “No Exceptions / No Excuses” list. And (miraculously), they’re sticking.
Most people also make resolutions that are too big, too overwhelming, or too unpleasant to tackle and that’s why they don’t stick. So this year, I made my resolutions more “bite size” in nature – because even small victories are better than no victories at all. Small steps towards positive change can hopefully become habitual.
Here are a few of mine, these just happen to be health-related. They're not exciting or even enjoyable, but I know they’ll deliver long term benefits for me.
I will drink at least 2 liters of water every day. (I highly recommend this one)
I will eat breakfast every day and it must include protein. (coffee only has been my daily ritual for a long time. ok, maybe a cookie too sometimes. yeah, I know...real healthy)
My kitchen officially “closes” every night at 7:30pm – that means no big meals or even snacking after that time (I stole that one from Oprah)
One week into the new year, I met a friend for cocktails after work. I told her about my new resolution approach. She was intrigued by my enthusiasm and resolve. So I challenged her to join me and make a daily commitment for herself - just one. On the spot, she came up with three! I noticed the bartender eavesdropping on our conversation (don't they all?), so I challenged him too. And he was happy to commit as well (wait a minute.... a guy happy to make a commitment to a woman?? what?! ahh, i digress -- that's another blog for another day). I toasted them both with a 16 oz glass of water to make sure I met my quota for the day and wished them luck.
So, here it is Feb 1. And guess what? Both my friend and the bartender have made it through the first month too! Of course, they could be lying to me, but I don’t think so. Because both of them said they had actually passed that challenge on to others in the following days of seeing me. Talk about making a “greater connection!”
So, how about all of you out there? Are you sticking to those New Year’s resolutions?
It’s never too late to start (or start again), so I’ll challenge you all right now. Pick 1 or 2 “bite size” things that you will commit to do on a daily basis – 100%, with no excuses, no exceptions. Write them down and check them off before bed each night. And don't go to bed until you can check them all off as completed! I promise you, once you make that decision, you’ll be amazed at how easy and freeing it really is. And I assure you the daily victories will be energizing.
btw, one of my other resolutions was to get more involved with the Greater IBM Connection effort. And I'm sticking to that as well. Care to join me in that one?
Interesting coincidence, as a final note: Yesterday, as I was drafting this blog entry, a friend of mine who knew nothing about my resolution thing, emailed me a link to a video clip of her CEO’s tv appearance on NBC’s Today Show just a few hours earlier. She works for First 30 Days, a new and very cool web site designed to help people get through the first 30 days of various life transitions, as those initial days are the toughest. Guess what her CEO spoke about on national tv with Al Roker? Yep, that's right: How to stick to your New Year’s resolutions beyond the first month. Pretty cool - what synchronicity! I love when that happens. Watch her interview here for more help on keeping your resolutions.
Good luck!! J
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Jane Scandurra
IBM'er: 1995 - 2006
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